Hey Mommas! This section is for you, for US! In this section you will find a variety of blended mom dynamics. Blend ME. I’m sure you’re probably wondering what that means…. well, blend me! We are here to get blended right? Exactly. Blend ME, Blend Mothers Empowerment, is intended exactly as it says to empower blended mothers. Parenting is already a challenge and if you’re a blended mother you understand there are many moving parts and pieces to the blended family dynamic and we need an outlet, so here it goes!
Blend More With The Orr’s began with a heart for blended mothers, a safe space for us to share our not so common views of motherhood from our lens, the blended mother lens. I believe women are the backbone of the family, even in a blended family. This is OUR safe place, a judgement free space where we can discuss our challenges, failures, and successes.
I have identified seven variations of blended mothers and blended family dynamics. Let’s use the Yours, Mine, and Ours method to simplify the descriptions. Yours= Your spouse. Mine=You as the blended mom. Ours= Shared children with your spouse. Let’s review:
1. EmptyNest Mom (Mine)
An EmptyNest Mom in this context, is a biological mother who does not live with her children. Whether by chance or by choice, you’re still a mom and an essential component to the blended family dynamic.
2. InstaMom (Yours)
An InstaMom, is exactly how it sounds…instant. No plan or preparation just BOOM! You fell in love with man who has kids and now you are the lucky recipient of inherited kids. Although instant, don’t downplay your abilities to successfully blend your family unit.
3. Singleton (Mine)
The Singleton is multifaceted, this mom is either a single mother who is looking to successfully blend or she was previously a single mother who is now married to a man with no children of his own. Whether newly dating, in a serious relationship or married, integrating your child(ren) with a new partner can have some unique challenges.
4. Mutual Mom (Mine/Ours)
The Mutual Mom enters her marriage with children of her own (previously the Singleton), her husband entered the marriage with no children. This blended mom has now expanded her family and now shares children with her spouse. She is the mother to all of the children in this blended family dynamic.
5. Brady Mom (Mine/Yours)
A Brady Mom enters her marriage with children of her own, her husband also has children. In this blended family dynamic, the Brady Mom does not share any children with her spouse. Think modern day Brady Bunch.
6. Mother Goose (Yours/Mine/Ours)
The Mother Goose (previously the Brady Mom) has children of her own, her husband also has children, and now she and her spouse share children. She is the mother of all blended family dynamics and has the most complex blended family dynamic.
7. Crossover Mom (Yours/Ours)
A Crossover Mom is a mom who entered the relationship childless (previously InstaMom). This mom now has shared children with her spouse. We call her the crossover mom because her journey to motherhood initiated as a stepmother and she has now “crossed over” to having children of her own.
Blended mothers come in many different forms. No matter what kind of blended mother you are, with God, the right resources, a supportive community, family, and friends your blended family can find encouragement and hope.
Which blended mom are you? Leave a comment below.