A Guide To Understanding Your Blended Family Dynamic

Hey Mommas! This section is for you, for US! In this section you will find a variety of blended mom dynamics. Blend ME. I’m sure you’re probably wondering what that means…. well, blend me! We are here to get blended right? Exactly. Blend ME, Blend Mothers Empowerment, is intended exactly as it says to empower blended mothers. Parenting is already a challenge and if you’re a blended mother you understand there are many moving parts and pieces to the blended family dynamic and we need an outlet, so here it goes!

Blend More With The Orr’s began with a heart for blended mothers, a safe space for us to share our not so common views of motherhood from our lens, the blended mother lens. I believe women are the backbone of the family, even in a blended family. This is OUR safe place, a judgement free space where we can discuss our challenges, failures, and successes.

I have identified seven variations of blended mothers and blended family dynamics. Let’s use the Yours, Mine, and Ours method to simplify the descriptions. Yours= Your spouse. Mine=You as the blended mom. Ours= Shared children with your spouse. Let’s review:

1. EmptyNest Mom (Mine)

An EmptyNest Mom in this context, is a biological mother who does not live with her children. Whether by chance or by choice, you’re still a mom and an essential component to the blended family dynamic.

2. InstaMom (Yours)

An InstaMom, is exactly how it sounds…instant. No plan or preparation just BOOM! You fell in love with man who has kids and now you are the lucky recipient of inherited kids. Although instant, don’t downplay your abilities to successfully blend your family unit.

3. Singleton (Mine)

The Singleton is multifaceted, this mom is either a single mother who is looking to successfully blend or she was previously a single mother who is now married to a man with no children of his own. Whether newly dating, in a serious relationship or married, integrating your child(ren) with a new partner can have some unique challenges.

4. Mutual Mom (Mine/Ours)

The Mutual Mom enters her marriage with children of her own (previously the Singleton), her husband entered the marriage with no children. This blended mom has now expanded her family and now shares children with her spouse. She is the mother to all of the children in this blended family dynamic.

5. Brady Mom (Mine/Yours)

A Brady Mom enters her marriage with children of her own, her husband also has children. In this blended family dynamic, the Brady Mom does not share any children with her spouse. Think modern day Brady Bunch.

6. Mother Goose (Yours/Mine/Ours)

The Mother Goose (previously the Brady Mom) has children of her own, her husband also has children, and now she and her spouse share children. She is the mother of all blended family dynamics and has the most complex blended family dynamic.

7. Crossover Mom (Yours/Ours)

A Crossover Mom is a mom who entered the relationship childless (previously InstaMom). This mom now has shared children with her spouse. We call her the crossover mom because her journey to motherhood initiated as a stepmother and she has now “crossed over” to having children of her own.

 

Blended mothers come in many different forms. No matter what kind of blended mother you are, with God, the right resources, a supportive community, family, and friends your blended family can find encouragement and hope.

Which blended mom are you? Leave a comment below.

 

 

9 Comments

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    by Shawna
    Posted 03.26.2019 03.26.2019 0Likes

    I am an empty nest mom. My daughters live with their dad and step mom an hour away. I am looking forward to all this website and blog has to offer. I need all positive outlooks and encouragement.

    • theorrs
      by theorrs
      Posted 03.27.2019 03.27.2019 0Likes

      Hi Shawna! That’s exactly what we’re here for…encouragement! We’re glad to have in the Blend More Family!

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    by Tasheena
    Posted 03.27.2019 03.27.2019 0Likes

    I am a crossover mom with 4 kiddos altogether. Ages range from 3months to 18! Needless to say it is a crazy life!

    • theorrs
      by theorrs
      Posted 03.27.2019 03.27.2019 0Likes

      Hi Tasheena! I’m a crossover mom as well! We have varying ages as well, 6-18. Yes this life is definitely eventful! Thanks for joining us!

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    by Tarina
    Posted 03.27.2019 03.27.2019 0Likes

    I’m a Brady mom! I came into the relationship with 3, he with one. Seems simple since it’s only one compared to my 3 right? Wrong! Especially when his 1 was raised totally different from my 3. Must have discussion!!

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    by Felicia Carter
    Posted 04.11.2019 04.11.2019 0Likes

    Hello!

    My name is Felicia!! I live in Las Vegas I am currently a “Singleton MOM.” I have a 11 year old son whom I adore !!!

    Currently working back into a relationship with my ex boyfriend/FRIEND of 17 years We have been broken up for 2 1/2 years while he was in another relationship, I continued being single and working on myself!

    We see marriage and kids together in the close future, however we are taking baby steps back into a relationship.

    He would like for us to speak to a relationship counselor/therapist before moving any further into a relationship,, what are you views on this?

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    by Felicia
    Posted 04.11.2019 04.11.2019 0Likes

    Hello !!

    My name is Felicia!! I live in Las Vegas I am currently a “Singleton MOM.” I have a 11 year old son whom I adore !!!

    Currently working back into a relationship with my ex boyfriend/FRIEND of 17 years We have been broken up for 2 1/2 years while he was in another relationship, I continued being single and worked on myself!

    We see marriage and kids together in the close future, however we are taking baby steps back into a relationship.

    He would like for us to speak to a relationship therapist or counselor, before moving forward and him making the commitment to move to Nevada from Georgia!

    Should we speak to someone?
    Should it be family we sit with?
    Should it be a professional or not?
    Do you think it would help?

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    by Lashonda Sallaway
    Posted 04.23.2019 04.23.2019 0Likes

    Im a mother goose with 3 daughters the youngest being 15 yr old and my spouse has 3 daughters ages 7-3, we share a son aged 1….It has been very difficult blending and I blame the age differences…but I could be wrong

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    by Mel C.
    Posted 04.23.2019 04.23.2019 0Likes

    I’m an InstaMom and it has been interesting to say the least. My husband has been great but the ex baby mama has interfered and has been hell on wheels for our entire relationship so it has been hard to co-parent. She has also caused a rift between the oldest and her dad but things has recently been getting better due to a health scare with his oldest. I don’t have the relationship I want with the oldest but me and the youngest get along great but still there is so much distance when they arent with us on our visitation. I just keep plugging along and try to do my best when they are with us. Glad you have this forum!

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